When my oldest daughter was 4 years old, she wanted nothing more than a baby brother. One day we were both home because she was sick with strep throat. She came into my room and point blank asked me, “When are you going to have my baby brother?”
I quickly explained to her that I couldn’t have her baby brother until I was married. Her dad and I had separated when she was only three weeks old, so for me, as a Christian trying to live a life of obedience, a baby wasn’t an option at the time.
That day she came into my room several times with suggestions of men we knew who she apparently thought would make great husbands for me. Her first two suggestions were guys from our church who were fourteen years younger than me and at the time were college students at Texas A & M. I assured her that young men in college want nothing to do with single moms in their 30s! Her next suggestion was one of her great-uncles; yes, that would be my uncle, and I told her that was against the law. Next she suggested her G-Dad, who is my dad! I explained again that that is also against the law, creepy, and just downright gross to even suggest. She left me alone for a while. I thought her match-making attempt was complete, but then a little while later, she came be-bopping back into my room with a gleam in her eye as she proudly proclaimed, “Mom, you are married! You’re married to my dad!” I immediately replied, “No, your dad and I are divorced. We will never be married again, and I can promise you without a shadow of a doubt, we will NEVER have another baby together.”
This is a classic example of a never-say-never situation.
I do not in any way, shape, or form think that my daughter made a prophetic statement about my remarriage to my ex-husband. That’s not what I’m saying. I’m just pointing out that sometimes what we least expect in life is exactly what God knows we need the most.
Sometimes what we least expect in life is exactly what God knows we need the most!
I never expected to remarry Chad. I didn’t pray for it. I didn’t desire it. I didn’t think about it. To me, remarrying Chad was an impossibility. One of those things that would happen if hell froze over or pigs started miraculously flying!
However, on May 25, 2012, exactly seven years after our separation, I once again stood at an altar. Surrounded by family and friends, with seven-year-old Sadie by my side, I did exactly what I said I would never do. I married my ex-husband.
Can you guess what’s next? You guessed it! On May 12, 2013, I had another baby with Chad. Her name is Sophia.
Two things I said I would never do happened, within one year of each other!
I think God woke me up tonight. I normally sleep like a rock and rarely ever wake up before my alarm. However, tonight for whatever reason: God, tiny bladder, rain against the window…whatever it was, I woke up and looked over to see my sweet Sophia beside me in the bed. She literally looks like an angel when she’s sleeping. Immediately the thought popped into my head: I’m in bed with a never!
I never imagined that Chad and I could work through all of the hurts we caused each other: all of the differences, the struggles, the words, the disappointments, the years of bitterness, or the heartache, but God knew. God knew that my “never” statement was just that, a statement.
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts higher than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9 (NIV)
Chad and I have now been remarried for 5 1/2 years. Our marriage is far from perfect because we are and will always be two imperfect people, living in an imperfect world, but I love my husband. I love our life together. I love Sadie, and I love Sophia, the child I said I would never have. I cannot imagine my life without the three other Prouses I call mine.
I don’t know what “never” statements you’re living right now, but I do know that God knows exactly what we need, when we need it. If we are faithful to Him, He will never let us down. His timing and His plan are impeccable, and His way of providentially orchestrating what can only be described as a miracle never ceases to amaze me.
If you have a personal never-say-never story, please share it in the comments below!